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Dating Decoders

Have you ever wondered why you are attracted to a certain "type" or find yourself always falling for the wrong guy (or gal). eLoveAgain.com has designed a system to help you decode early into the dating cycle the type of behavioral pattern your partner is revealing.

Disclaimer: Our Dating Decoder while developed by therapists is intended as a social guide not a clinical tool for therapeutic self or third party assessment. eLoveAgain.com's Dating Decorder is no substitute for face-to-face counseling services with a Psychologist, Psychiatrist or a Registered Clinical Counselor. Please consult these professionals if you are dealing with serious relationship issues or mental health concerns including: abuse, psychosis, suicide ideation, violence, and eating disorders.

Directions: Make note of your answers to these questions and then cross-reference with the behavioral analysis that follows.

Does your date mostly talk about himself instead of asking about you?
No (1)
Yes (2)
Answer: 2

Does your date constantly answer her cellphone during your outings?
No (1)
Yes (2)
Answer: 2

Have you caught your date saying a grandiose or exaggerated statement that usually proves to be false?
No (1)
Yes (2)
Answer: 2

Does your date have a lack of empathy for others when you speak about tragedies, or certain painful subjects?
No (1)
Yes (2)
Answer: 2

Does your date often bring up subjects that are hurtful?
No (1)
Yes (2)
Answer: 2

Does your date talk incessantly about her family?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date receive calls from her mother more than twice per day, everyday?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date share your relationship challenges or issues involving you with his family rather dealing directly with you about them?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date often stare at other attractive people when you are out together?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Do you receive a call from you date shortly after you met and then you do not hear from him for days afterwards?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Have you caught your date in a lie?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Has your date made statements that are hard to accept or believe?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date boast of past sexual experiences?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date spend equal periods of time asking about your interests and talking about his own?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date listen well and speak without judgment?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date hide his feelings about you?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Does your date make you feel special and adored?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Is your date respectful?
Yes (1)
No (2)
Answer: 1

Narcissist
(Questions 1-5, Answer key Mostly #2): This behavior demonstrates someone who does not trust easily and may be under the delusion that they are well liked, when in fact they are not. They often lack empathy, lies, are self-centered or egotistical and blame others for their problems rather than looking inward.

Mamas Angel
(Questions 6-8, Answer key Mostly #1): Someone exhibiting these behavioral traits often has not fully separated from his parents. Accordingly, if you are seeking to pursue someone with these personality traits it is very important to develop early on clear boundaries because without them you will end up feeling less important which can cause feelings of resentment and may lead to a relationship breakdown. Be on the lookout for signs that your partner appears too close to his/her family to the point that the family feels that you are not "good enough" for your partner. It is wonderful to have a partner who feels close to her family, however, boundaries need to be in place so that you and your partner go to one another to share and resolve relationship issues.

Commitment phobic
( Questions 9-10, Mainly 1): Someone exhibiting this type of behavior is often hot & cold (gives and then takes back). They may appear passionate but that passion is not exclusive and they often flirt with others. Folks demonstrating this type of behavior rarely show their feelings and while may be interested and not ready to be with you exclusively.

Player
(Questions 11-13, Mainly 1): Anyone who demonstrates this type of behavior should cause your sixth sense to tingle and the word "player" to appear in your mind. If you choose to pursue a relationship with someone exhibiting this behavior you are accepting that there is a fundamental lack of trust in the relationship. Your instincts are telling you that the person is not who he portrays to be often making excuses, cheating or lying. You know you cannot trust someone who exhibits this type of behavior...your instincts are telling you to walk away--may be best to listen to them.

Just Right
(Questions 14-18, Mainly 1): Someone who demonstrates behavior that makes you feel comfortable, alive, and curious. The just right date is one who shares a strong (and genuine) desire to get to know you without an agenda. This person may or may not be a fit, but is willing and eager to give it a try. The just right date is open, honest, and ready to have fun while making you feel respected and important. You will know when you meet a just right date, because you won't want the evening to end, you will feel excitement at the thought of seeing them again and you will look forward to their phone calls.

Good luck on your dating adventures and keep in mind the Dating Decoder traps on your search for your Mr. or Mrs. just right!